My Long Journey to Wholeness

Reading about other’s journeys from mental illness to mental health brought to mind my journey from depression that became chronic and verged on suicidal in the late 70’s, though now I know it was massive repression taught to us descendants of Nebraska homesteaders.  What a shock when my marriage failed, for I’d excelled in all the courses about homemaking and was a good wife by farm standards, though I had no emotional life and knew nothing about how to live with an alcoholic who had psychotic breaks.

My hard-working stock would say: just move on, put it behind you and keep going, a fine recipe for repression.  I plunged myself into my work of helping open new community residential alternatives for the mentally challenged.  As long as I was achieving, I knew I was ok.

I was haunted, however, in my personal life by the shadow of multiple molestations from my toddler days to puberty (totally out of my awareness for another 15 years).  My first...

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Dissolving the Effects of Abuse

For many of us wounded sexually as children, intimacy and sexuality are a struggle between trying to consistently feel our sexual feelings or give up caring about relationships.  Incest and centuries of repressing the feminine and truncating the masculine (in us all) make intimacy difficult for many, often hard work, and sometimes frought with triggers.  I feel healing such pervasive effects requires we come to live in our deeper feminine, the true nature that lies beneath the wounds.  At our core we must be whole and I want us to find our way back to that wholeness and original innocence.

I love doing therapy with the heroic people who’ve not only survived incest and childhood horrors, but manage to have a life while freeing themselves of being ruled by the past.  My guides have joined me in committing to find faster, kinder ways for survivors to heal than reliving memories and being victim to the pain again and again.  I studied soul retrieval as...

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Releasing Emotional Armoring

emotions healing therapy May 01, 2019

We spend our childhood building emotional armor and our adulthood trying to get free of it.  It serves to honor this armoring and any dissociative process that helped protect us from what seemed shocking or harmful.  When children lack clear guidance, they invent ways to cope -served then, not so useful as an adult.

Honor that your armoring was formed for a reason, a protection against unsavory people or parents’ pain, a defense against unbearable feelings, a response to being forced to cope beyond your understanding.  As you honor how it has served you, it can soften over time, allow your essential essence to shine through.  

What we resist, persists, so take time for your young selves who felt the need for armoring, to get safe and realize there is, finally, an adult on duty.  When they hear you’ve got this, they can relax, stop reacting to the world with shut-down or fear.  Then armoring can slowly dissolve.  

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